How shall I compare thee...

There is a book by Michelle Magorian called A Little Love Song which I have been reading at least once a year for about fifteen years. I love it, it's a story of growing up and falling in love. The main character, Rose, is 17 and thinks she's plain and no one will ever love her. Very common feeling for lots of people. However Rose is not my reason for writing this. The thought I had while reading the book again is that every man can be put into the category of one of the two male leads. This isn't saying they'll look or act exactly the same or that women can't be put in the same categories but I gotta go with what I know from personal experience.

The two types of men, there are the Derry types and the Alec types.

Derry types are the ones who only sleep with you to impress their friends. They can be charming and funny as well as cruel and confusing. They will build you up and the whip the carpet out from under you. These are the game players who never call. They might not be bad guys but they are the ones who will make you cry. The common denominator in the Derry type is that they are selfish, have no real feelings for you and eventually will break you heart if you don't hold on to it tight. I don't like Derry types, I've gone out with alot of them (unfortunately). However through years of trial and error I've started to develop a spidey sense about these guys, can usually spot them fairly quick and run like hell. Women fall for these men lots however the arrogance of thinking their fantastic seems to have a direct effect on their intelligence and sexual skills because neither are ever impressive after more then 5 minutes.

Alec types, these are the guys who make you tea when a Derry makes you cry. They are the ones we can be exactly ourselves around. They are comfort and understanding. Laughter and challenging. They are the blokes who after you've had a bad day will make you dinner and then carry you to bed and make sure you go to sleep happy. These are quiet simply the ones who are good for us, they never make you doubt yourself or how much they like you because they don't mess about. The Alec types are the ones who we should chose every time. Unfortunately they are hard to find. Some that you do find there isn't that sexual spark and you end up as friends, this isn't a bad thing, always good to have an Alec in your life, whatever his role!

As a final observation, one woman's Derry is another's Alec, gotta discover these things for yourself. Just don't fall for the nice guy act and petty words, fall for the guy who's every act is nice and makes you laugh til you cry.

Nobody expects the Spanish inquisition...

Today I yet again found myself defending a book I like against someone who, hadn't read it, has no intentions of reading it and yet feels the need to criticise me for reading it and insult me for liking it. this is not the first time this has happened and I'm sure it won't be the last however I defend my right to rant about it because now it's really starting to bug me.

My main problem with this carry on is that while you may judge people for their tastes as teenagers, surely as adults we can accept that what books they like does not a person make! It's the same with music, movies clothes whatever personal likes you have that make you happy. First it's nobody's business and if you make it their business and they just insult it, well that's just mean. I'm all for opinion, if you don't like something you can explain why, but saying 'that's shit, I can't believe you like that, what were you thinking?' is not an opinion it's an attack. 

So have your own opinion, just only on things you've actually read, seen or listened to. If you don't like it that's fine but accept the fact that when other people do like it (shocking as this may be) that's ok too! I have rules that I follow for books, music a films and expressing opinions about them.

Books:  In the world of modern technology the fact that people are picking up books at all is a bloody miracle, let's not dis it!   

Music: You may feel 'holier then thou' with you Rolling Stones or the Beatles however Beyonce or Justin Bieber is just as valid a choice. Some people don't like songs written while on lots of drugs, some people don't like happy clappy pop, both are valid opinions, both people are entitled to make that choice and someone liking music you don't doesn't make them a bad person. 

Films: There is no 'better then' in films, I always like it when blokes insult 'chick flicks' and then go watch something like 'Never back down', which is just a cheesy and has the same end result but instead of people talking about things for the entire movie they hit each other. If you have to watch a movie with your other half find a happy medium. If you don't have to don't watch something you don't want to then it's simple, don't watch it, don't have an opinion on it and just carry on.

Just my final note, when you insult someone's tastes you are insulting them, it's not nice or smart or cool it's mean and childish. So cop on, grow up and stop judging because you wouldn't like it if someone did it to you. Rant done!

Things are happening!

There's something I like about the internet. It can be where you become public or pull focus on you or on the other hand it can be a place of ambiguity, where you can get lost and go unnoticed. I've started a few blogs over the years and never kept them up, mostly because I have the attention span of a five year old and when something sounds like fun I try it until I get bored and then stop. So this will probably be my first and last post ever (on this blog, taking the others into account it is not my first and will probably not be my last!). However I feel like writing, not a diary and yet not for other people, it's more about the prospect of other people reading it makes me think more about what I say and how I say it. Weird as this may be the fact that someone could read it is enough, they don't ever have to.

So things are happening. They really are. I have just put in my application for collage and am not a bag of nerves in case they don't let me in and am on the edge of throwing up in case they do. The idea of going into a room and telling people why I want to attend their collage immediately makes me feel like a fraud. I've felt like a fraud quiet a bit lately so it's not a new feeling but I hate it. I have this awful habit of telling people things that aren't exactly true, this is different from lying in only one way, it is totally unintentional.

 What happens is I have the truth of what I want to say and if I'm with someone I'm comfortable with that's what comes out, but if I'm nervous or uncomfortable something like the truth comes out. It'll be very similar, the general jist of the truth but it's like I'm trying to shorten what I'm trying to say. I seem to think that the person is just waiting for me to finish talking so I try and get out my thought in the quickest shortest way possible. That's not me, I'm not a slow talker but I'm a long talker, it takes me time to explain what I want. I think that's why this half truth thing happens I know that my long talking thing annoys some people so I try not to do it in just in case the person I'm talking to will get annoyed. I'm not really one who will try to make someone like me once they don't but if I meet someone for the first time I try, I think like everyone else, to show the best of myself. Except I don't show the best of myself. I show this blithering insecure mess who doesn't resemble me all that much. It seems to be a recurring theme but I've no idea how to stop it. I have the same reaction when I fancy someone, half of them must have thought I hated them because the more I like someone the less I'll talk to them and when I do they get short, sarcastic answers not because I'm nasty but because I'm terrified of making a tit of myself. I always wonder if other people feel the same, is it just me or is presenting a true and positive aspect of yourself is much harder then it sound?. I'm sure it might be for those who are very outgoing and confident and I have that aspect but you have to get to know me a bit to see it. When I first meet someone I'm shy and very uncomfortable and then I panic! Maybe I'll get over this with time. Fingers crossed!!